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As We Grow Older, Mother Grows Further

There may be moms who don’t love their kids, but I doubt there’s a single kid who doesn’t love their mom. We may not admit that often, but we are born out of her. How can we not love our root?

Mother’s Day happens every year. Once, when I was in high school, my Chinese teacher told us something I still remember now: “All holidays are created for the fragile.” There’s no Men’s Day, but there is a Women’s Day. No Doctor’s Day, but there’s a Nurse’s Day. No Millionaire’s Day, but there is a Teacher’s Day.

We pay respect to certain social roles, but some of them are not created equal. I don’t know if “mother” is a fragile role, but we do have both Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. So maybe parenting is a rough mission. Not everybody is willing to take that role. But moms give birth to us. Though they grow older, our blood still feels for them.

One Day to Remember the Woman We Often Forget

There are 365 days in a year, and Mother’s Day is only one of them. Grown-ups like me don’t even get to see our moms much. Maybe once a year. And even then, we don’t talk much. And even when we talk, it’s mostly her worrying about our well-beings.

I’m not a mom yet. I’m not sure if I ever will be. Would I be the ideal mom? As cool as I imagine one could be? My mom is a diligent, hardworking woman. Just an ordinary nobody. I love her—but I’ve never really wanted to be like her.

Gift Ideas for the Ideal Mom (Who Might Just Be Yours)

So, for today’s post, let’s think of some ideal Mother’s Day gift ideas. She’d love flowers, of course. She does. She used to be a girl, just like I am now—young and beautiful, full of love. Get her a bunch of flowers, invite her to a dance in the wild, and watch her laugh like a kid. You might say your mom never laughs like that. But she sacrificed a lot to raise you. I believe her youth is still there, somewhere inside. Tell her that. Remind her she didn’t have to give up her life and youth just to raise you. We are old enough to take care of our own stuff now. “So go live your life, old pal.”

A Dress for Her Inner Girl

If you’re good at styling, get your mom a beautiful dress. Or ask a friend to help. Girls like pretty dresses, and your mom once wore them, too. No matter how old she is, that girl inside her is still there. Secretly. Trust me. A dress to dance with the flowers—what an image.

A Massage, A Market Walk, and a Moment to Rest

If I were my mom, I’d love a massage. My mom’s never had one. She might even forget how much she hates feeling itchy, and just enjoy the girl time with me. And if you’re a boy, wait for her the way you would for your girlfriend — patiently, lovingly, like she matters.

Shopping can be annoying for moms—they worry too much about time and money. So take her somewhere she can shop comfortably. Maybe the cheapest marketplace. Splash some money there for her in front of the shop owners she probably knows. Let her bargain. Let her brag about your job, your income, your love life.

A Fancy Dinner, A Heartfelt Conversation

Then, take her to a fancy restaurant. Let her wear the dress you got her. Or let her choose one herself. Spend time listening to her talk—she’ll probably talk about your dad or your childhood. She may not remember what she had for dinner, but she’ll remember how you listened.

When we were young, we talked nonstop to get her attention. Now, she talks all the trivial things just to stay connected. The best gift a mom can have is her kid.

If I Were a Mom, If She Were Still a Girl

If I never have a baby, that might be my biggest regret. But on Mother’s Day, thinking about the cool mom I could be makes me stop worrying. I think about the woman who lives hundreds of miles away from me. What can I do to make her happy?

The answer is: “live my life to the fullest. Love myself. Take care of myself. You are my treasure” , my ideal mom would say, “And the best gift I could ask for on Mother’s Day.“

Is my mom ideal to me? I don’t know. But when I was writing this article, every image that came to mind for the “ideal mom” was my own mom.

Yeah, we have issues. I think most parents and kids do. But on this day—Mother’s Day—I can forget and forgive all the fragile, both in her and in myself.

Let’s go celebrate. Let’s go with I love you, mom. Happy Mother’s Day!

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